|Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth.|
|My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.|
|Little children, let us not love with word or with tongue, but in deed and truth.|
|1 John 3:18 |
We should not love in word or in tongue, but rather in deed and in truth. In other words, it should not be a matter of affectionate terms only, neither should it be an expression of what is not true. But it should be manifested in actual deeds of kindness and should be genuine instead of false.
For John, love is not a feeling or attitude toward others. God is love (1 John 4:8, 16), and He acts in love on our behalf (1 John 4:9-10). Love, therefore, is something one does, by keeping God's commandments (1 John 2:2-5; 5:3), "in deed and in truth" (1 John 3:18), and, above all, by loving others (1 John 2:9-11; 3:10).